Keepin it Comfy Won't Make You Stronger
"You've got to build a mind that has a greater motivation than comfort. Most people can't stomach that…"
Meditation used to seem so mysterious to me. In my mind, people sat down, closed their eyes, cleared their head– whatever that meant, and got up feeling totally renewed… I can think of over three emojis and at least a dozen memes to represent my face when looking at people who talk about meditation.
The reality is that I just spoke another language and I think a lot of other people do too. So! To demystify it simply, meditation is the practice of being able to control your own mind. As far as meditation is concerned, it requires an individual to avoid looking at the time, glancing at things, listening to random noises, drifting off into a daydream, or reaching for the phone. All of which becomes nearly impossible for someone who isn't disciplined.
While this scenario is simple, consider dieting. How hard is it to avoid those foods you want to eat so badly? How painful is it to eat clean? On the other hand, think about that big dream you have. What does it take to make it manifest? How many times have you talked, wrote, or dreamed about it? Did you make the plan? Have you executed any of the steps? For those of you who jumped right in, did you slow down or give up when it didn't turn out the way you wanted it to? These are real scenarios that we can identify with and they also mirror a person who can't sit their butt still on a cushion and clear their mind.
I'm not exaggerating when I say that you've got to build a mind that has a greater motivation than comfort. Most people can't stomach that. There's a general proverb that speaks to this: "the magic you're looking for is in the work you're avoiding." I can't imagine how many eyes roll upon hearing this, but it's true. Contrastingly, I can imagine how daunting this also can feel for those who don't know where to begin.
It's important not to forget your why. Equally important, is the how. I also believe that perception is vital. We have to stop yearning for reality to be other than what it is. In doing so, we remove disappointment from unrealistic expectations. All that's left is to take the first step and commit to doing the work. This isn't to say we won't get off track. People meditating will glance around them and dieters have a cheat day– maybe even a cheat week. People working toward their dreams may get distracted, weary, unmotivated or distracted. What's important is that you give it what you have today. Bring yourself back to where you need to be and continue pushing forward.